The ugly cry.
The ugly cry is a cry of liberation.
It is the reclamation of our forgotten ability and natural need, to wail and lament.
This inner wisdom comes to us when what pains us hurts too much to be contained or explained.
It is necessary in assisting the body to transmute density, darkness & pain into greater light and deeper love.
The ugly cry is also how we cultivate bandwidth, grit, resilience and grace. It grounds us in honoring the necessary grief within our bodies to be processed. It also allows us to digest the colonized beliefs of quiet suffering and, of all the grids of false image and expectations we may be consciously or unconsciously agreeing to.
The ugly cry is a most necessary aspect of reinstating our animal nature into right place.
When we don’t allow our animal body to howl, cry or lament our wounds keep festering, growing in impatience, anxious to be let out, desperately scratching away at the inner caverns of our beings.
We are taught to admire a false and illusory image of strength in the world, but we forget that most of what we see out there is strength that has never been tested.
We harness our resilience and our true strength from the challenges of wounds that leave us more supple, more gentle and more refined.
We heal ourselves THROUGH our wounds. We are made strong THROUGH them and we are softened by the elixir of our tears.
True strength is a sacred watermark of divine design.
It is the poise of a soul which is at one with a life that honors and engages its wildness and its rawness and in turn, reveals the inner beauty that is a radiance deep in the heart of the temple of our beings.
I encourage you to cry, cry a lot. It is liberating. There is nothing noble or strong about holding tears back or swallowing pain that is ready to be transformed.
It is cleansing. It is healing. It is not only what we need more of, but what we collectively need more of right now.
As this collective body continues to journey deeper into its trauma, we can all hold our own thread of healing through our ability to grieve and lament our heartbreak.
Wail, lament, allow your tears and sounds to refine your radiance and transmute the density of suffering, into the elegant beauty that is always birthed from pain.
And if you dare, I invite you to post your #uglycryselfiechallenge as a war cry to the return of our precious grief as necessary practice, and not giving a fuck about looking pretty whilst at it.
Grief is meant to be witnessed. It’s meant to be raw. It's a necessary process to a lighter heart, that honors what it has lost as medicine.
It was this way in our ancient villages and our bodies can still remember it.
Woman, put your ache first.
In your pain is the medicine you seek.
In your pain is the guidance from your soul.
Go slow, gently, hesitantly even, but go.
Descend to your depths.
There are no hacks in the creatives’ underworld.
Let it brew you, steep you, dissolve you.
It will distill from you the most wonderful essence you can gift the world.
We need your art, your medicine, your embodied prayer.
We need it in order to restore our collective home.
Collectively we are the salvation of the world.
Living the great adventure of being afraid and brave at the same time is uncomfortable as heck.
But learning to be anchored and connected to our spiritual resilience and center, invites a more graceful approach and perspective to the inevitable ups and downs of life.
For me, the inner peace I can now access and embody within my challenges, has been worth every step and tear on the journey.
I invite you to place your hands on your belly, take a deep breath and give thanks for being exactly where you are right now.
This place is necessary for who you are refining and becoming.
The dots always connect looking back but don’t make sense looking forward. It is designed this way.
So, breathe, give thanks and take the next step from this place of committed action to show up for yourself in whichever way you need to right now.
When you’ve been in pain for long, pleasure can become scary.
This plays out in our relationships or in our careers.
Consciously or unconsciously, feeling good can come with shame. So we push our partner away by finding faults or withholding our love.
Doing financially well can come with guilt. So we do just enough to get by or when we do well, we unconsciously seek to sabotage.
The body is always seeking to harmonize into what its default programs are, so if it’s functioning from pain, trauma, loss, or poverty, it will continue to want to remain in the chemical state it knows until it is shown different.
Our limitations live within us, woven in our flesh, in our organs, in our DNA, in our body memory.
Its imprints live in our center, which I reference as our Wombspace. For men, the Hara space.
Until we descend into this center of creation and upgrade our ways of operating, the body will continue on default, and you will continue to try and change it through some external way of doing or thinking, only to arrive eventually into the same results.