There's a fierce commitment to self love and tending required to allow someone you love to be in their uncertainty without rushing them. To give them space without needing them to do what we think they should or offering any ‘how to'.
It is a profound testament of love to honor another in this way. Our own inadequacies and needs can rush to fix what seems to be uncertain. To make right what seems to be wrong.
There is fierce love in stepping back into our own discomfort and sense of potential loss. To restrain from needing to be helpful or be helpless, but rather allow the other to come into their own realizations, in their own time and in their own way.
Come what may.
It is in that space of surrendering of any solution where once again our loving can embrace us, our authentic boundaries can hold us and the truth about whats happening can emerge.
It is in the space of honoring another in this way that we can choose to BE love and accept what is, over choosing to grasp for some sense of control which only creates further separation and chaos.
We can have a really hard time accepting what life is telling us in the NOW because its not saying what we WANT it to say. So, as we keep breathing into the surrender of this flow we can remind ourselves that to love, is to allow and to let be.
That to truly love another means above all, to be willing to honor where they are and accept that life knows best. Always.
There is a fierce and devotional loving that says 'your will for you is my will for you'.
This maturity in love can only emerge through an awakened and Divinely empowered lover. Yes, love like this can be co-created.
True empowered love is for the courageous.
Have you ever been asked for this space?
Have you ever needed this space but betrayed yourself to please another?
Whether lover, friend or foe, every relationship contains a portal to our truest self. The deeper we can see their true essence and heart, the deeper we can touch our own.
Our own history in relationships, the core challenges in our current relationships, are the place where our greatest treasures are held. When we dive IN for them, they can become our guiding allies in raising our frequency and inviting a conscious shift into the physical reality of our relationships.
Inch by inch, petal by petal, we unfold in the threshold of our illusory self, finally awakening into the flowering mystery of who we truly are and the love we are meant to live.
Sacred relationship isn't something we chase,
it is a frequency we cultivate within ourselves.
It is a birthright that needs to be remembered,
claimed and embodied.
"Too often we lack discernment and deliver ourselves time and time again into the jaws of the beast. We ignore the healthy and loving parameters of our own boundaries, unable to claim our own power and essence in the world, or stand in our self-love with others.
In psychological terms this is known as repetition-compulsion, a drive to replay our deepest, hidden wounds until they are made conscious and resolved.
In relationships, we need to activate our Dragon Power first, our own mature selfhood and inner wisdom, as we open to merge and flow deeply into the waters of union, so our journey to the deep does not drown us.
Developing a healthy sense of self, boundaries, and ego is essential, which is a personal journey into self-love.
When we shine the bright light of clarity and love into our relationships and into our own emotional and psychological patterns, we will either awaken a phoenix of union out of the flames, or that which is not love will turn to ashes."
-Womb Awakening Book by Seren Bertrand and Azra Bertrand