I have loved in life
and I have been loved.
I have drunk the bowl of poison
from the hands of love as nectar,
and have been raised above life’s joy and sorrow.
My heart, aflame in love,
set afire every heart that came in touch with it.
My heart has been rent
and joined again;
My heart has been broken
and again made whole;
My heart has been wounded
and healed again;
A thousand deaths my heart has died,
and thanks be to love,
it lives yet.
I went through hell and saw there love’s raging fire,
and I entered heaven illumined with the light of love.
I wept in love
and made all weep with me;
I mourned in love
and pierced the hearts of men;
And when my fiery glance fell on the rocks,
the rocks burst forth as volcanoes.
The whole world sank in the flood
caused by my one tear;
With my deep sigh the earth trembled,
and when I cried aloud the name of my beloved,
I shook the throne of God in heaven.
I bowed my head low in humility,
and on my knees I begged of love,
“Disclose to me, I pray thee, O love, thy secret.”
She took me gently by my arms and lifted me above the earth,
and spoke softly in my ear,
“My dear one,
thou thyself art love, art lover, and thyself art the beloved
whom thou hast adored.”
Written by Hazrat Inayat Khan
You don’t ‘manifest’ a man.
You open and create space inside yourself for one and surrender to its organic timing.
‘Manifesting’ a man whilst not bringing sincere inner inquiry and awareness to our own toxic behaviors, is a black magic trick of the impatient ego mind that will not create energetic expansion, but energetic backlash.
It’s not that men are not available and willing to commit. Its that when you’re attracted (consciously or subconsciously) to half-heartedness and unavailability, you are being shown where you need to inquire, make space and commit WITHIN.
There's a fierce commitment to self love and tending required to allow someone you love to be in their uncertainty without rushing them. To give them space without needing them to do what we think they should or offering any ‘how to'.
It is a profound testament of love to honor another in this way. Our own inadequacies and needs can rush to fix what seems to be uncertain. To make right what seems to be wrong.
There is fierce love in stepping back into our own discomfort and sense of potential loss. To restrain from needing to be helpful or be helpless, but rather allow the other to come into their own realizations, in their own time and in their own way.
Come what may.
It is in that space of surrendering of any solution where once again our loving can embrace us, our authentic boundaries can hold us and the truth about whats happening can emerge.
It is in the space of honoring another in this way that we can choose to BE love and accept what is, over choosing to grasp for some sense of control which only creates further separation and chaos.
We can have a really hard time accepting what life is telling us in the NOW because its not saying what we WANT it to say. So, as we keep breathing into the surrender of this flow we can remind ourselves that to love, is to allow and to let be.
That to truly love another means above all, to be willing to honor where they are and accept that life knows best. Always.
There is a fierce and devotional loving that says 'your will for you is my will for you'.
This maturity in love can only emerge through an awakened and Divinely empowered lover. Yes, love like this can be co-created.
True empowered love is for the courageous.
Have you ever been asked for this space?
Have you ever needed this space but betrayed yourself to please another?
Whether lover, friend or foe, every relationship contains a portal to our truest self. The deeper we can see their true essence and heart, the deeper we can touch our own.
Our own history in relationships, the core challenges in our current relationships, are the place where our greatest treasures are held. When we dive IN for them, they can become our guiding allies in raising our frequency and inviting a conscious shift into the physical reality of our relationships.
Inch by inch, petal by petal, we unfold in the threshold of our illusory self, finally awakening into the flowering mystery of who we truly are and the love we are meant to live.